Tuesday, July 23, 2013

this is what's happening...




this is what's happening in my kitchen. my 4 year old foster son losing his mind because his birthmother cancelled his visit for the week. he's doesn't quite understand and thinks i cancelled it because he wasn't being a good listener. so i get to hear him call me bad names and hear him tell me how much he doesn't like me...

i wish the courts could see what they are doing to this little boy.

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  1. I wish they (the courts) understood this as well. I have been worried about you.

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    1. its like his interest in this case isn't even cared about. so sad

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  2. I wish he could have some permanence. Poor boy.

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  3. This breaks my heart. It is the reason I could never be a foster mom.
    I have seen the kids hurt. I have seen the foster parents hurt. And, I have seen the birth parents hurt.
    So sad.

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    1. you're right. most times it feels like no one is winning.

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  4. This happened to my kids too. At first, we would go to the agency and wait for mom to show up. But if she didn't show up, our kids had meltdowns. Fortunately, we lived less than five minutes from the foster agency that hosted the visits. After a few no-shows, we ended up waiting until the birth mom showed up before we brought the kids to the visit. The social worker would have the mom do some sort of paperwork or otherwise keep her busy until we could get the kids there. They were young enough to not know that it was visit time. I don't know what we would have done if they were older.

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  5. Oh, no...I'm still adjusting to the end of google reader so I've been missing all your blog posts. This is so heart-breaking, you have a strength and depth of love that overcomes all.

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