Thursday, November 17, 2011

last week marked my daughters...

last week marked my daughters 5th year on this planet... It also marks our 5th year doing foster care. I didn't think I'd last a few weeks let alone 5 years. But. I fell in love with a blonde princess that i rescued from a pink castle high atop the koolaus...the rest is history.

So what have I learned...

I learned i must give grace to birth parents. They are hurting. Hurting people will try to hurt you. You are blessed so be a blessing...I know - easier said than done.

Also, Let yourself fall in love with your foster child. He deserves the unconditional love of a mother, even If it's gonna rip your heart out and send it through the meat grinder when he leaves.

And remember, you have no control. Not so good for the control freak mommas *raising hand*...Everything is left up to god...sure he puts social workers in the way but ultimately he calls the shots. surrender your children, worries and wishes to Him.

one last thing. there is no way i could be a successful foster parent without my family loving these children like their own. there is no way i could be successful without a community that encourages me. there is no way i can be successful without connecting with other foster/adopt families. so - thank you. thanks for everything. we're in this together.


  1. This is such a cool post. I really really really hope I get to meet you one day. Did I tell you I'm trying to adopt? Did I tell you I went to pick up the baby last week and when I got there the birth mom gave the baby away to a cousin? Did I tell you I held the baby for an hour and a half under the pouring rain while the cousin/new mom was waiting for the bus to take the baby away? Oh and this week the cousin/new mom gave the baby back to the birth mom. It turns out she didn't want a new baby after all. I'm dying!

  2. i love the story about your rescuing her from her pink castle...boy is she special!

  3. I love this and I very much agree with it. We adopted domestically, but I have 11 siblings from the foster care system so I know they ring true!!

  4. Happy belated birthday to your heart.