Mike and i have taken a special interest in watching The Locator, mostly because of the adopted children who are seeking their biological parents. we know one day this conversation will come up in our home. and the truth is - as much as i wanna celebrate her being adopted, i dont wanna be reminded of the fact that she has another mother.
adoptive moms - please dont judge me. just let me get this off my chest.
i can already feel my heart hurting...what if my kids like their birthparents better? what if their funner? prettier? richer? smarter? what if they cook better? what if they ARE better? i'm just asking. and i'm asking out loud. which i should probably stop.
the truth is. i wanna be her only mother. her number 1. the truth is i'm fearful.
i got a nice kick in the but from Courtney at Storing Up Treasures...thanks for reminding me - it's not about me.
"Your kids are always going to love their birthparents. Always. I hope that instead of being hurt over it, you can give them the freedom to express this love. Give them space to feel their pain. Give them understanding and compassion. They need to know you will love them no matter what and that you will be their safe person to let it all out with. They need to know you aren't going to be hurt and that what they are feeling is normal. Pray for them. And direct them to the healer of all healers. Don't beat yourself up. Don't worry that there is something wrong. The pain they are experiencing is beyond anything you or I could ever begin to comprehend. Ever. But that doesn't mean that we can't love them through it."