Tuesday, December 7, 2010

baby j, how did you know... {hawaii foster care blog}


baby j, how did you know i was sad?
i got off the phone and you came and cuddled up
you said *MA!* and gave me a kiss

i got of the phone with your social worker.
she didnt have good news.
they want to give you back to her, in just a few short months.

sure she has a substance abuse problem.
sure she is a sex offender.
sure she has a baby on the way.
sure you've been with me for one year.
sure she has no job.

surely.none.of.that.matters.

16 comments:

  1. my heart is breaking for you both. virtual hug.

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  2. :( Oh, I am hoping and praying things change so baby j can stay with you.

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  3. OH NO!!!! I am praying.....not a good day. Know that God is resting on you in this very very very hard place to be in.

    Let me know if you need to just call and scream.....totally get it having been in the foster care system.....I am soo sorry for this....nightmare. Lifting you up to HIM because HE will be your shield, your strength, and you peace when all else fails....because humans fail on a regular basis.

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  4. I'm so sorry, that is so heartbreaking. Praying for you.

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  5. :( is this the same mom who is pregnant & tested positive for drugs???? What in the world is wrong with these people?

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  6. No! don't let them. Run away. O.K forget I said that but, but, but, arghhhhh

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  7. There's something very wrong with that, I'm very sorry.

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  8. You should have standing in court. Talk to an attorney. Judge gave us standing after having Lil Bit just 2 months.

    I'm sending a BIG virtual hug your way! I will continue to pray for your family!

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  9. Larisa - thank you for the hug
    Oahu Mom - thank you for your continued prayers
    ATKAY - isnt that the truth...he is always faithful when i fail. your blog post was just what i needed... weird huh?
    Janell - thanks for the prayers
    PotterMama - oh yeah. thats her. they think it's something she could fix in the next 3 months.
    Da - ha ha we already planned a highly SECRET move to china. this giant white baby wont stand out there.
    Shawntae - Very Wrong!
    Penelope - thank you so much for the advice. i am gonna check into that.

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  10. Miss Sonya, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Hang in there. Continue to do what you do best ... give love and all will work out. BTW, I love your blog! Hopefully someday we will get a chance to reunite and catch up at a Whittier alum event.

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  11. I had no idea..and now I'm bawling! I'm so sorry Sonya. I have no words in me that will make it better but I am praying and I hope the system will see your family is a far better place for baby to be. (((HUGS)))

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  12. mezclados - reunification. sick. huh?

    Jenn - thank you so much for your words!

    Ash - thanks ash! Prayer helps a TON.

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  13. Sonya, thanks for such an honest and genuine story of foster parenting. I feel like we're walking through the trials and tribulations with you. It's something that I still think heavily about. When Slugger was in the NICU, her little friend in the crib next to her had to be released to her grandma because her mom tested positive. She kept trying to show up at the hospital high. She was so small and adorable, so strong, we grew really attached to her. Apparently the grandmas is also raising her siblings and 6 cousins as well. I wish we could have taken her home with us...but your story does show that it's not an easy solution.

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  14. I am so sorry to hear that. Praying for you and your family as you face these next few months. I know how devestated you must be :(

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  15. Friend, Chin up! remember miracles do happen! they have before and can happen again! your in my prayers! luv you!

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