Sunday, January 24, 2010

when we decided to do foster care... {hawaii foster care blog}

when we decided to do foster care for infants, one of the first questions i asked was...."what do i refer to myself as - mommy, ms. sarmiento, auntie?" The director of the program told me, for the sake of not wanting to get too attached to the baby, i should refer to myself as auntie. When we brought home our first foster daughter she was just 10 says old...i didnt refer to myself as anything for the first few days....then one day as i was looking at her i blurted out "mommy loves you." i shocked my self, but by no means did i feel like her auntie. i loved her like a daughter.

whether i would be her "forever mother" was questionable, but while she was in my home, i was her mommy. she knew nothing else. all she knew is that every little need she had was met. all she knew was that she had a million people who loved her.

she deserved to have a mother. she deserved to not be involved in the drama called foster care.

4 comments:

  1. I feel the same way. My foster son was 3 years old when he came to us so I introduced myself as Maura. One day maybe about a month later he called me mom out of nowhere. He has called me mom since. It still melts my heart when I hear it.

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  2. Maura - i know what you mean...we've had her for over 3 years now (adopted last sept) and i am still conscious when using the word *mom* and when being called *mom* very strange.

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  3. Yes, I know what you mean!

    Calling my kids my "son" and "daughter" always makes me stop and think. It's not finalized yet, but Lord willing, it will be by the end of the year.

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