Wednesday, December 16, 2009

all in gods plan... {hawaii foster parent blog}

many times when people find out we do foster care they can't imagine how we can give a baby back after having them in our home for so long. and the truth is many times, I myself, cant imagine how i'm gonna do it. That's when i let god take control. i have to put my entire trust in him. most importantly i have to remember that god plan's lives...and he's planned out their lives too. I belong to an amazing group of foster moms who fight the same battles as i do. they give me strength and remind me that there is purpose to the madness called Foster Care.

At our monthly training last night, a fellow foster mom shared something that was on her heart...She wrote this after her foster son of 2 years left her to be reunited with his mother. it's so beautiful to me. and hopefully whether your a foster parent or not, you will find it beautiful too.

God's plan is bigger than what you can imagine. How one life affects another life in this moment is all that we can see. Our motherly instincts make us believe that we know what is right for our babies. However, God knows where each baby belongs and where they should ultimately be placed. For us, we may be only used for a love and cherish His children at this point in time. He has chosen you because He knows your heart. He knows that you will do the best job. I thank you for saying yes to His call. He wants you to love each child like your own even if he/she belongs to Him. When they leave us, that's just a small glimpse of how He felt when he gave up His Son for us.

We are not only here for the babies, the babies are here for us. We need too remember that through the babies, He is also changing us to be what He wants us to be.

Our birth and adopted children in our homes have a bonus blessing from Jesus. They can see His heart through the process. It might not be a bed of roses, they may experience their first heartfelt loss...but this prepares them for the future. They will learn to be obedient, yielding to God's supreme plan throughout the happy, sad and challenging times. Many people have told me "I can't do fostering, it would hurt me and my kids too much." That is true, but i believe that God has given us a chance to stretch and exercise our faith by allowing Him to use us as a vessel. What an honor! I know that when a baby in our care leaves, everyone feels a loss, no matter how good the circumstance might be...or worse how bad the circumstance might appear. Draw your family close and know that God will take you through this journey and remember the cross.

Fostering is a tough job, but He will equip us with whatever comes our way. i still think and pray for every baby that He has blessed us with and what they left behind in the hearts of my family. i often long to hold them in my arms again. I pray that someday our lives will cross. So ladies, have faith in His ultimate plan. See the face of Jesus in every baby. It still humbles me that He believes that i am worthy of this job.

Acts 17:26-27 From one man He made every nation of men, that they should inhabit the whole earth; and He determined the times set for them and the exact places where they should live. God did this so that men would seek Him and perhaps reach out for Him and find Him, though He is not far from each of us.

Below is a photo of our daughter on her first christmas 3 years ago...without taking the GIANT leap of faith to do foster care, we would have never met. i thank Him for introducing us.


  1. I needed to read this today. Thank you!

  2. mary. i am so glad this post was able to help you. i still can't read it without tearing. i'm not even going through this right now, but it breaks my heart to think others are.